How To Get Over An Ex

This blog explores how to get over an ex – someone you may in fact still love.

From the outset you have to realize that getting over someone you love is difficult. No matter how prepared or ready you may think you are to move on and get over that person will be a painful process. Sometimes it’s a slow process, too.

You may think you’re over someone and a year or two later be reminded of that person and feel all the pain and sadness again. That doesn’t mean you’re not over the person, though. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves.

If you’ve had a lot emotionally invested into a relationship and it ends, it’s something that can potentially make you feel sad for years. Maybe even for the rest of your life. But that doesn’t mean the sadness has to be paralyzing or has to throw you into a depression. By getting over the person, you can realize that losing them made you sad, and look back on it as you would any sad loss. It’s the period of time soon after the loss that should be the hardest, that makes you ask how to get over someone you love.

If the break-up is recent, often the only way to deal with it is just to face the pain and ride it out. It’s going to hurt, no matter what you do. But there are some things you can do to lessen the pain. You can remove obvious visual reminders of the person, if possible. Photographs of them can be put away for a while. Gifts they gave you can be stored instead of displayed. You can even avoid the places you used to go together for a while.

If you’re having trouble living a normal life after the break-up, it may be necessary to seek counselling. Explain to the counsellor that you’ve just been through a painful break-up and ask the counsellor for advice on how to get over someone you love. They can offer helpful advice, and can be specific about how to get over someone you love.

It’s advisable to use the services of a professional counsellor, rather than the opinions of friends and family. Your friends and family may feel they know your situation too well. Some may have motives for help you get over the person. They may not have liked that you were in the relationship to begin with, so they may want you to get over things or move on to another person too quickly. With a counsellor, though, you can safely tell them things about the relationship you probably don’t want friends or family to even know.

Feel free to go to counselling for as long as you need to. If the counsellor feels you’re spending too much time dwelling on how to get over someone you love, they’ll tell you.